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Источники

ВВЕДЕНИЕ: ЧАСТЫЕ МЕЛОЧИ

1. Kim T. Buehlman, John M. Gottman, Lynn F. Katz. How a Couple Views Their Past Predicts Their Future: Predicting Divorce from an Oral History Interview, Journal of Family Psychology 5, nos. 3–4 (1992): 295–318.

КАК ПОЛЬЗОВАТЬСЯ ЭТОЙ КНИГОЙ

1. John Gottman, What Predicts Divorce? The Relationship Between Marital Processes and Marital Outcomes (Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, 1994).

2. John Gottman, The Relationship Cure (New York: Three Rivers Press, 2001).

3. Belinda Campos et al., Positive and Negative Emotion in the Daily Life of Dual-Earner Couples with Children, Journal of Family Psychology 27, no. 1 (2013): 76–85, accessed November 29, 2021. URL: https://doi.org/10.1037/a0031413

ДЕНЬ 1: УСТАНОВИТЕ КОНТАКТ

1. John Gottman, What Predicts Divorce? The Relationship Between Marital Processes and Marital Outcomes (Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, 1994).

2. Julia C. Babcock et al., A Component Analysis of a Brief Psycho-educational Couples’ Workshop: One-Year Follow-up Results, Journal of Family Therapy 35, no. 3 (2013): 252—80, accessed November 29,2021. URL: https://doi.org/10.llll/1467—6427.12017

ДЕНЬ 2: ЗАДАЙТЕ БОЛЬШОЙ ВОПРОС

1. Неопубликованные результаты опроса, проведенного с участием более пятисот супружеских пар, изученных Институтом Готтмана.

ДЕНЬ 3: СКАЖИТЕ «СПАСИБО»

1. Elizabeth A. Robinson and Gail M. Price. Pleasurable Behavior in Marital Interaction: An Observational Study, Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology 48, no. 1 (1980): 117–18, accessed December 2,2021. URL: https://doi.Org/10.1037/0022—006X.48.l.117

2. Robert Weiss. Strategic Behavioral Relationship Therapy: A Model for Assessment and Intervention, in Advances in Family Intervention, Assessment, and Theory, vol. 1, ed. J. P. Vincent (Greenwich, CT: JAI Process, 1980): 229–71.

3. Richard Davidson and Sharon Begley, The Emotional Life of Your Brain (New York: Hudson Street Press, 2012).

4. Richard J. Davidson and Antoine Lutz. Buddha’s Brain: Neuroplasticity and Meditation, IEEE Signal Process Mag 25, no. 1 (2 0 08): 174–76, accessed December 2, 2021. URL: doi:10.1109/msp.2008.4431873.

5. Renay P. Cleary Bradley, Daniel J. Friend, and John M. Gottman. Supporting Healthy Relationships in Low-Income, Violent Couples: Reducing Confl ict and Strengthening Relationship Skills and Satisfaction, Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy 10, no. 2 (2011): 97–116, accessed December 2, 2021. URL: http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/15332691.2011.562808

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7. Jillian McKoy, «Depression Rates in US Tripled When the Pandemic First Hit – Now, They’re Even Worse,» The Brink, Boston University, October 7, 2021. URL: https://www.bu.edu/articles/2021/depression-rates-tripled-when-pandemic-irst-hit

ДЕНЬ 4: СДЕЛАЙТЕ НАСТОЯЩИЙ КОМПЛИМЕНТ

1. John Gottman. What Predicts Divorce? The Relationship Between Marital Processes and Marital Outcomes (Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, 1994).

2. John M. Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman, The Science of Couples and Family Therapy: Behind the Scenes at the Love Lab (New York: W. W. Norton, 2018).

3. Gottman and Gottman, The Science of Couples.

4. John M. Gottman and Clifford I. Notarius, «Marital Research in the 20th Century and a Research Agenda for the 21st Century,» Family Process 41, no. 2 (2002): 159–97, accessed December 2, 2021. URL: https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1545–5300.2002.41203.x

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6. Gottman et al., Predicting Marital Happiness and Stability from Newlywed Interactions, Journal of Marriage and Family, 60 (1998): 5–22.

7. John M. Gottman and Robert W. Levenson. Marital Interaction: Physiological Linkage and Affective Exchange, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 45, no. 3 (1983): 587–97.

8. John M. Gottman and Robert W. Levenson. Physiological and Affective Predictors of Change in Relationship Satisfaction, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 49, no. 1 (1985): 85–94.

ДЕНЬ 5: ПОПРОСИТЕ ТО, ЧТО ВАМ НУЖНО

1. Sybil Carrère and John M. Gottman, Predicting Divorce among Newlyweds from the First Three Minutes of a Marital Conflict Discussion, Family Process 38, no. 3 (1999): 293–301, accessed December 2, 2021. URL: https://doi.Org/10.llll/j.1545— 5300.1999.00293.x

2. John M. Gottman, What Predicts Divorce? The Relationship Between Marital Processes and Marital Outcomes (Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, 1994).

ДЕНЬ 6: ПРОТЯНИТЕ РУКУ И ПРИКОСНИТЕСЬ

1. Chrisanna Northrup, Pepper Schwartz, and James Witte, The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal About Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship (New York: Harmony Books, 2013).

2. Paul Zak, The Moral Molecule: The Source of Love and Prosperity (New York: Dutton, 2021).

3. Ashley Montagu, Touching: The Human Significance of Skin (New York: Harper & Row, 1986), 87.

4. Maham Hasan, What All That Touch Deprivation Is Doing to Us, New York Times, October 6, 2020. URL: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/06/style/touch-deprivation-coronavirus.html

5. Tiffany Field, Touch (Cambridge, MA: MIT Press, 2001).

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7. Tiffany Field. Touch Therapy Effects on Development, International Journal of Behavioral Development 22, no. 4 (1998): 779– 97; Tiffany Field, Miguel Diego, and Mari Hernandez-Reif, «Preterm Infant Massage Therapy Research: A Review,» Infant Behavior and Development 33, no. 2 (2011): 115–24, accessed December 2, 2021. URL: https://doi.org/10.1016/j.infb eh.2009.12.004

8. Alyson F. Shapiro et al. Bringing Baby Home Together: Examining the Impact of a Couple-Focused Intervention on the Dynamics within Family Play, American Journal of Orthopsychiatry 8, no. 3 (2011): 337–50.

9. Sidney M. Jourard. An Exploratory Study of BodyAccessibility, British Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology 5, no. 3 (1966): 221–31, accessed December 2,2021. URL: https://doi.Org/10.llll/j.2044–8260.1966,tbOO978.x

10. Terri D. Fisher, Zachary T. Moore, and Mary-Jo Pittenger. Sex on the Brain?: An Examination of Frequency of Sexual Cognitions as a Function of Gender, Erotophilia, and Social Desirability, Journal of Sex Research 49, no. 1 (2012): 69–77, accessed February 7, 2022. URL: doi:10.1080 /00224499.2011.565429

11. Caleb E. Finch. Evolution of the Human Lifespan and Diseases of Aging: Roles of Infection, Infl ammation, and Nutrition, PNAS 107, no. 1 (2010): 1718–24, accessed December 2, 2021.